As a secret keeper herself, Gretchen dealt with the pain and guilt of not being free to be the full woman she wanted to be. She found a way to break free from the rules and beliefs that held her back with a ten stage secret breaking system. Today, as a Certified Life and Business Coach and Speaker, Gretchen leads her clients to be self-honoring and intentional about the power they have within.
I am so glad you found this safe teaching space where twice a month for 21 weeks I will bring in a Guest Author to teach on the phases of coming out of abuse denial outlined in this book. I woke up from a dream when I was 42 understanding I was molested as a young child, and my whole life changed forever… for the better.
But not right away.
I went through some very painful stages and couldn’t find support groups that could take me on a linear path of recovery or remove a victim mentality. I understood I had to walk through shedding the affects of denial first before I could write about it in my book, and then teach the process in hindsight.
When we have been abused, our subconscious lies about the truth to us for as long as it can before we are emotionally ready. For some, this is quick, but for many others like me, it took decades to face the abuse, understand the past and find a new voice. By then, I had already functioned as a false persona in so many areas of my life for so long, I didn’t even know who I was. Abuse had altered my original identity and affected the way I handled money, spirituality, friendships, success, and my ability to love myself.