No Longer Abused
A bi-Monthly Zoom Teaching Series

INSPIRED BY Author Kim O'Hara's self-help book No Longer Denying Sexual Abuse: Making The Choices That Can Change Your life

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SESSION Fifteen: commitments

Why did we dodge commitments to ourselves and others when we were trapped in the denial and secrets of our abuse? Not committing to others and being able to leave gives us a false sense of power, leaving us lacking true intimacy. The new self emerges when we become aware of our past, and face it, and can build a new level of trust in ourselves and others when we keep commitments.

In this session I am joined by coach Rachel Karu, MS, PCC, author of Stepping into More: Lessons from a Recovering Perfectionist. We talk about the importance of identifying your values to know how to put actions behind your commitments, and Rachel provides her story with showing up vulnerably and authentically with her family.

Buy Rachel's book -Stepping into More: Lessons from a Recovering Perfectionist.

Rachel’s journey as a recovering perfectionist inspired her to create Stepping into More: A professional/personal development company. Her previous professional experiences include HR Manager at EMI Music Distribution and Manager of OD and Training at Easton Sports. Rachel earned her MS in Counseling for Business, her Coaching Professional Credential through the International Coaching Federation (ICF) and is a Certified Strengths Coach.

I am so glad you found this safe teaching space where twice a month for 21 weeks I bring in a Guest Author to teach on the phases of coming out of abuse denial outlined in this book. I woke up from a dream when I was 42 understanding I was molested as a young child, and my whole life changed forever… for the better.

But not right away.

I went through some very painful stages, lost without support groups that could take me on a linear path of recovery or remove a victim mentality. I understood I had to walk through the shedding of denial first so I could write about it in my book, and then teach the process in hindsight.

When we have been abused, our subconscious lies about the truth to us for as long as it can before we are emotionally ready. For some, this is quick, but for many others like me, it took decades to face the abuse, understand the past and find a new voice. By then, I had already functioned as a false persona in so many areas of my life for so long, I didn’t even know who I was. Abuse had altered my original identity and affected the way I handled money, spirituality, friendships, success, and my ability to love myself.

Today I am a thriving writer, mother, book coach and home owner in Los Angeles.

“This book is truly a gift to sexual abuse survivors. Kim delivers a courageously candid and insightful depiction of her devastating experience as a survivor of incest.”

Session Fifteen: Commitments

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    What abuse do you identify with?
    Where do you struggle with your commitments?

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