No Longer Abused
A bi-Monthly Zoom Teaching Series

INSPIRED BY Author Kim O'Hara's self-help book No Longer Denying Sexual Abuse: Making The Choices That Can Change Your life

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SESSION Thirteen: Emerging From SHame

As survivors, we naturally feel shame about the situations we were in. Did we cause them? Are we to blame? Shame prevents us from living in the present because we are afraid of what others will do to us, and therefore perpetuate more shame. Shame and blame go hand in hand. When we are in victim mode, our shame makes us retaliate often on people who are here to love us that we can trust. We get to be aware of our unhealthy wiring from the abuse and not project our guilt if we feel we have done something wrong. It’s our responsibility to untangle this relationship with shame so we can be more intimate and find deeper more loving connections to ourself and others. We also get to experience feeling vast amounts of joy.

Joining me to co-facilitate this important discussion on the relationship between a history of abuse and shame is Author/Speaker/Coach Rebecca Whitman.

Rebecca Whitman, the Magnetic Abundance Mentor, and International best-selling author, was awarded Life Coach of the Year and Empowered Woman of the Year by International Association of Top Professionals. “LA Weekly” magazine featured her as one of the Top 7 Entrepreneurs to Watch in 2023.

She is the host of the top 1.5% globally ranked “Balanced, Beautiful, and Abundant” podcast, which won the Positive Change Award.

She has been featured in “New York Weekly,” “Miami Magazine,” and “LA Weekly” magazines. In addition to her appearances on ABC and CBS, she has guested on over 100 podcasts. She has given keynote speeches at Columbia University and UCLA.


I am so glad you found this safe teaching space where twice a month for 21 weeks I bring in a Guest Author to teach on the phases of coming out of abuse denial outlined in this book. I woke up from a dream when I was 42 understanding I was molested as a young child, and my whole life changed forever… for the better.

But not right away.

I went through some very painful stages, lost without support groups that could take me on a linear path of recovery or remove a victim mentality. I understood I had to walk through the shedding of denial first so I could write about it in my book, and then teach the process in hindsight.

When we have been abused, our subconscious lies about the truth to us for as long as it can before we are emotionally ready. For some, this is quick, but for many others like me, it took decades to face the abuse, understand the past and find a new voice. By then, I had already functioned as a false persona in so many areas of my life for so long, I didn’t even know who I was. Abuse had altered my original identity and affected the way I handled money, spirituality, friendships, success, and my ability to love myself.

Today I am a thriving writer, mother, book coach and home owner in Los Angeles.

“This book is truly a gift to sexual abuse survivors. Kim delivers a courageously candid and insightful depiction of her devastating experience as a survivor of incest.”

Session Thirteen: Emerging From Shame

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